Not many people will dispute that we are living in an environment where negative and pessimistic thinking, speaking and acting is dominant but do not want to accept that your thoughts create your reality.

These negative sentiments can apply to our country, our employer, parents, religion, family, income, or bank balance; the list is endless.

What influence do these thoughts have on your mental or physical health, your future career, your happiness or joy in life, or on the people you meet?

Victor Frankl, the famous author and psychologist who survived the horrific Auschwitz prison said if you cannot change the circumstance you can change your attitude.

You often do not have control over the circumstances, but you can control your reaction or attitude, towards the circumstances.

The negative environment or the circumstances we are living in do not control our future, but our reaction towards it does. We have to understand it and take appropriate action, or we are destroying our own future.


The Problem we are faced with – Your thoughts create your reality

We are bombarded with negative news daily, because negative news sells, it has value, it goes viral, and people look for these kind of stories – it is good conversational material.  Success, and good positive stories do not have the same value.
Research has proven that we think about 100 000 thoughts every day. 70% of these are negative and only 30% are positive.


What is the Implication – Your thoughts create your reality

The fact is that: Our thoughts determine our words, our actions, and who we are.

Our natural inclination is to think, talk and act negatively, unless we manage it.

Our circumstances will not change – we must change. The reasons for negativity will not change.

Do we want to allow the circumstances to destroy our reality – or do we want to take control of our own future? That is the real question.

There have always been reasons for negativity in the world and there always will be. -It is not the circumstances but our attitude towards the circumstances that is the determining factor.


During the 3 years of struggling in the German concentration camps Viktor Frankl the images and thinking of his wife – her smiles, talking to him – created a feeling of love and gratitude. These images gave meaning to him. He clings to it. That helped him to endure the sufferings and gave meaning to him. This change in attitude helped him to survive – mentally.


We destroy ourselves with negativity. We tend to focus our mind and thoughts on what we cannot do or what prevents us from doing, instead of what can be done. This negative attitude has a major psychological and physical effect on us.

It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that results in failure in life and prevents us from developing our full potential.

The vital question for each of us is: are you going to allow the politics, the economy, your boss, somebody else to control your destiny or your future? Your future is your prerogative – do not allow anybody else, or a negative environment to control it or steal it from you. We must take control of our own future.


The Solution – Realise your thoughts create your reality

We must change our attitude towards our environment – as Frankl did in Auschwitz.   Change it from a martyr mentality and take control.

I am convinced that developing an attitude of gratitude is the best and easiest way to change one’s thinking and mind-set.

Gratitude is

  • a habit of expressing thankfulness and appreciation in all parts of your life, on a regular basis, for both the big and small things alike.
  • It is an attitude of concentrating on what you have and not on what you do not have.

Gratitude allows us to use all our senses.

The more senses we can use to learn something, the quicker and easier it will be. Every day we can hear, feel, touch, see, taste and experience things that we can be grateful for – provided we are sensitive to these daily experiences.

Use these daily observations to develop an attitude of gratefulness.

I would like to share my experiences with you:

  • I decided to change because I understood the benefit a positive change would bring and I made a commitment to myself to change.
  • Keep a daily gratitude journal
    • A gratitude journal is a diary of things for which one is grateful.
    • Write about what you have seen, heard, smelled, tasted and felt that you can be grateful for.
    • Make a point of using your senses to experience things you can be grateful about. Appreciate everything.
  • Surround myself with positive people who realise the importance of gratitude. This allows me to express myself.
  • Never take part in negative discussions.
  • Have somebody with whom you can share my gratitude and progress.
  • Make an effort to spend time with my loved ones


The benefits of developing my attitude of gratitude

  • It improves interpersonal relationships
  • Improves physical health
  • Improves psychological health
  • Sleep better
  • Boost self-esteem
  • Enhance mental strengths

Your thoughts create your reality – the developing the thoughts of gratitude is one of the easiest ways to improve general joy and satisfaction in life.

Practice it every day – it will change you.