It seems unnecessary to ask people if they want to be happy, the answer seems so obvious that nobody seems to ask this question. Of course, the response would be a resounding “Yes!”

So why does true happiness evade so many people? The answer is because happiness is a choice – our own choice, and few people realise this. This vital element of happiness is often misunderstood – that we must actively choose happiness.

Does this mean that most people don’t choose happiness? Or is there some other reason why happiness continues to evade them?

Some people may not understand what happiness is, and what it is not. They go through life simply accepting one or more myths about the nature of true happiness. The result is that they neglect to choose happiness.

Some myths about happiness:

  • Happiness is not: Feeling good all the time
  • Happiness is not: Being rich or affording everything you want
  • Happiness is not: A final destination
  • Happiness does not depend on the circumstances in your life, or your business or health
  • Your happiness is not determined by anybody else: by what they do, or say, or don’t do, or don’t say.
  • Happiness is not a once-off happening. It is not something that happens to you, or must happen to you someday in the future.

Why do we each have such a keen longing for happiness?

We all have a desire to be happy. This is part and parcel of us as human beings due to our DNA. Research has proven that happiness has a positive influence on our physical and psychological well-being. It is therefore natural for us to have a longing for happiness.

The nature of happiness

Happiness is intangible. It is a “feeling of being happy”. It refers to pleasure, and meaning in life. Science has proven that we can train ourselves to be happy.

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions, ranging from contentment to intense joy.

You can tell if somebody is happy from a mile away. Happiness is contagious. Their smile, their laugh, their positive attitude, the fun, the energy, their vital presence, all emanate from a happy person. Everybody loves interacting with a happy person.

Happiness is an important requisite for successful interaction with people. Whether it is sales, marketing, lecturing, coaching, professional advisors, business leaders, etc.

The United Nations declared 20 March as International Day of Happiness to recognise the relevance of happiness and well-being as universal goals.

Happiness has been defined by some as:

  • “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”- Mahatma Gandhi
  • “Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values.” Ayn Rand
  • “Happiness is something that you are and it comes from the way you think.” – Wayne Dyer
  • “Happiness is essentially a state of going somewhere, wholeheartedly, one-directionally, without regret or reservation.” – William H. Sheldon
  • “Happiness is not a reward – it is a consequence.”- Robert Ingersoll
  • “Happiness is different from pleasure. Happiness has something to do with struggling and enduring and accomplishing.” – George Sheehan
  • “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.” – Aristotle
  • “Happiness is not something you experience, it’s something you remember.” – Oscar Levant
  • “Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling.” – Margaret Lee Runbeck
  • “Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.”- Denis Waitley
  • “It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.” – Charles Spurgeon
  • Happy people focus on what they have whereas unhappy people focus on what’s ” – Unknown

These views on happiness emphasise that happiness is not a happening, it is a journey. We have to choose to go on that journey and choose happiness daily, and actively work on our happiness during that journey.

Choose happiness – your daily action plan

Because happiness is a journey that we travel every day of our lives, we must ensure that we are on track daily in order to reach our destination.

  • Choose happiness and reaffirm your choice every day.
  • Be grateful. Do not miss any conscious experience of gratefulness.
  • See, feel, hear, touch and taste – experience happiness via your senses. Avoid any negative thoughts. It is a constant daily fight against those negativities that bombard us. Be ready to fight them.
  • Strive to have a balanced lifestyle, both physically and mentally.
  • Every day do a few things that you really enjoy doing.
  • Evaluate your happiness every day and work actively on daily improvement.

To choose happiness and implement your daily action plan is not easy, but you will not reach your destination of happiness without daily action and sincere commitment.

I wish you success on your journey to happiness. Choose happiness every day.

Do you want to be happy? - Choose Happiness